With kids this young—ages 2 to 4—proximity to attractions and self-contained fun matter more than sprawl. Disney's Polynesian Village Resort and Grand Californian both cut travel friction to zero; you're steps from rides, not fighting parking or shuttles. If you're willing to skip the theme parks entirely, Aulani offers Disney entertainment without the crowds, or go all-in on water features at Grand Wailea or Beaches, where toddlers can safely splash while you actually relax. All five picks trade price for sanity—pools, kids' programming, and zero-commute design mean fewer meltdowns and more downtime for parents.